Living Real (Introvert) Life!

Why a Wallflower?

Friend, veteran, wife, mom, introvert. I’ve spent most of my life trying to find my people, often unsuccessfully. I realized I didn’t want it to be that hard for others. I created The Happy Wallflower to be a place for us to learn, laugh and live real (introvert) life together.

I have a way with words. I’m blessed to use my gift to share and connect with others.

Tiffany Carter, Founder of The Happy Wallflower

The Making of a Wallflower …

Telling you about myself is easiest done in three phases. Each contributes to who I am. I wouldn’t say my life is prime for the next blockbuster movie. But, it’s a real story … a real life.

Phase 1: The Stem

I’ve always been a quiet type. Sadly, this didn’t always lend itself to being the coolest kid, or making a ton of friends. I was often misunderstood and thought to be standoffish or weird. But, that was mostly because I lived in my own head most of the time. However, the friends I did make I valued. I made a great best friend and still do. I met my best friends in high school and they’re still my besties today.

This phase of my life taught me what it means to find your people. Without this lesson, I might not have made it back from the desert.

Phase 2: The Pistil

I started my adult life by accepting the fact that I might lose it. I don’t come from an affluent family so paying for college was always going to be on me. Enter the military with its promises of student loan repayment. Naively, I didn’t expect to actually be deployed to Iraq.

My experience in a wartime deployment was hard. And that’s putting it mildly! It lead me into a state of depression before I had words to describe what I was feeling. I certainly didn’t know how to get help for it. I shudder to think where my unchecked thoughts would have led me if it had not been for the intervention of others.

This phase taught me the importance of wellness and taking care of yourself. A valuable lesson I had to remember once my kids came.

Phase 3: The Petals

I became a wife, mother and homeowner all in less than 18 months. That’s a big adjustment for someone who, prior to that, only had to be responsible for exactly one person … me. To top it off, I’m not just a mom. I’m also a stepmom – with all the complexities that come with that. So, if we’re doing the math, that’s:

1 Wonderful Husband + 1 Stubborn Teenager + 1 Angsty Pre-teen + 1 Sassy Toddler + 1 Adorable baby = 1 Tired Momma!

My family is a blessing I give God praise for every day. But I don’t feel one ounce of guilt about wanting to hide from them some days too!

This phase is teaching me how to find ways to keep all the balls in the air without burning out. Timesavers and personal treats are essential. A cupcake or cookies, and a good cup of tea are mine. What are yours?

Friend, veteran, wife, mom, introvert. I’ve spent most of my life trying to find my people, often unsuccessfully. Which, to be fair, probably had a lot to do with me being an introvert who sometimes presents as socially awkward. I realized I didn’t want it to be that hard for others. I created The Happy Wallflower to be a place for us to learn, laugh and live real (introvert) life together.