Sexy Gift Ideas Your Wife (And You) Will Love

Looking for something to keep the spark alive? No matter how busy we get, it’s important not to neglect the sexual side of your relationship. And it can be so easy for this to happen without even noticing. Need some inspiration? Check out these sexy gift ideas for your wife.

Wives, I see you. Check this list out for yourself then strategically place it where your hubby can find it before your next special occasion. Let’s face it … finding good gifts for your wife can be a challenge. Use this list to get your, eh hmm, juices flowing. 😉

Sexy Gifts to Set the Mood

It’s important to set the mood when you’re gettin’ sexy. We have so many things vying for our attention every day, setting the mood helps you to relax and focus on time with each other. A sexy present will help with that too.

When setting the mood, you want to appeal to your five senses. Here’s some spicy gifts to help with that:

Sexy Gifts to Smell

• Essential oils
• Scented Lotions
• Perfumes

Try these gifts to stimulate her sense of smell. Whichever you choose, make sure the scent is relaxing and not overpowering. Look for scents that are warm and earthy. Stay away from citrus scents since those tend to be more energizing rather than relaxing.

Sexy Gifts to Hear 

• Slow Jams Playlist

Music is the best way to stimulate her sense of hearing when setting the mood. Fittingly, a playlist of her favorite slow jams is a thoughtful and sweet gift.

Pro tip: if you use a music streaming app but don’t have a paid subscription, sign up for the free trial. There’s nothing worse than setting the perfect vibe only to have an ad break the mood.

Sexy Gifts to Taste 

• Favorite Food
• Desert Toppings
• Edible Underwear
• Edible Chocolate Body Paint

You can have some fun with taste. Try some of your favorite food or toppings. I’ll let you decide where to put them. If you’re feeling really daring, a pair of edible underwear or some edible chocolate body paint is also a great idea.

Sexy Gifts to See 

• Lingerie
• Rose Petals
• Lighting

Appealing to your sense of sight means creating a sexy scene. Think about things that would catch her attention immediately such as sexy lingerie or rose petals.

Another crucial part of setting the mood is the right lighting. You can use something as simple as a dimmer switch. 

If you don’t have one, other simple lighting solutions are colored bulbs or candles. A safer option is faux candles that have flickering lights on the end but don’t use an actual flame.

Sexy Gifts to Touch 

• Massage Oil
• Heating or Cooling Lubricant

Well, hopefully, the entire night is about touching. But if you’re looking to “prime the pump,” try using massage oil to give your special lady a nice rub down. A sensual massage is sure to help your wife relax at the end of a long day. 

Also, don’t be afraid to experiment with temperature. Adding a little heat or a little cold can be very stimulating. You can use what’s in your kitchen (like ice), or buy lubricants that heat up or have a cooling effect.

Now that you’ve set the mood, take it to the next level by incorporating some tools to enhance your intimacy. And by that, I mean sex toys.

Sex Toys

Are you blushing? I’ll take that as a sign of your interest. Sex toys can be wonderful aids to enhance sexual pleasure, making them some of the sexiest gifts. Just make sure your wife is comfortable with whatever you choose before using it.

Vibrators

Vibrators, vibrators, so many vibrators. They come in all shapes, sizes, and colors. You may have to test out a few before you find the perfect vibrator. 

My recommendation – buy one that you wear first before buying one to use on her. This can be a very personal decision and she may want to be in on it.

But don’t worry, there are plenty of options made to be worn by men so have fun shopping!

Panty Vibrator

A panty vibrator can be fun for you both. Your wife wears it and you control the vibration with an app or a remote control. Check out We-Vibe Moxie – this brand comes highly recommended.

Clitoral Stimulation

Clitoral stimulation is the ultimate type of pleasure for women since the clitoris is the most sensitive erogenous part of their body. 

You can do this manually, or invest in a sex toy that she can use with you, or in preparation for sex. The Satisfyer Pro 2 is a good choice for a popular and affordable brand. 

Sex Furniture

Sex furniture is a large category that includes lots of different things. Basically, they are pieces of furniture used to help achieve different sex positions comfortably. 

Don’t be overwhelmed. Sex pillows are a very simple place to start with sex furniture.

Budget-Friendly Sexy Gifts

Here are some budget-friendly options if your heart is big but your funds are low. And don’t be fooled. Sometimes the perfect gift doesn’t cost a thing at all.

Flavored Lubricants

Flavored lubricants don’t typically cost a lot but there’s a lot you can do with them. Flavored lubricants, especially, stand out during foreplay. 

Coupon Book

Creating your own sensual coupon book requires little money but more creativity. You can make your own small booklet, or you can write your coupons on pieces of paper in a jar. The key to a coupon book is being ready and willing to honor the coupon whenever she pulls one out.

Fun Activities to Use With Sexy Gifts

Now that you’ve got the best sexy gifts for your wife, let’s look at some activities to put them to use. It’s always good to be prepared. 😉

Sexy Games

Who says sex can’t be playful!? Sometimes a little lightheartedness is a great way to take your mind off daily stressors and focus on each other.

Try sex dice, role play, or “Simon” says (use your own name instead or a role-play name). 

Sexy Challenges

Sexy challenges are playful ways to stretch your partner’s interest and try new things. They are not meant to apply pressure or be coercive in any way. If something doesn’t work for one or both of you, don’t do it. Just be open and have a good time.

Try truth or dare, or follow the leader. These classic kids’ games take on a whole new experience when introducing them into sexy time.

Sexploration

Sexploration is when you both suggest something new to try. It could be using your new gift, new sex positions, or even a new location. The point is to change things up a bit and find something new you both enjoy.

Sexy Gifts for Long Distance

It’s tough keeping the sexy alive in your marriage when you have to be apart from each other. Whether it’s a short trip or an extended amount of time, you have to be intentional with your efforts. Here are some gift ideas for couples in a long-distance relationship.

Phone Sex

Ok. So, this one is less a gift and more an activity. The gift would be showing your partner that you are still focused on and attracted to them. Sometimes it helps to get out of your own head and pretend to be someone else or another version of yourself.

Try setting a phone date when you will call her at a designated time. This way you’re both ready and anticipating it.

Erotic Books

Books may not sound exciting but reading erotic books to each other will take the pressure off of knowing what to say. It can also keep you both engaged and excited about reuniting.

Erotic Podcasts 

Erotic podcasts can accomplish the same thing as erotic books but work better for people who don’t like reading.

Mobile App

There are apps specifically focused on helping you learn and grow with your partner while engaging in different sensual games and activities. Try one and see if you like it.

I hope you try one or several of these sexy gift ideas for your wifey. However, after sharing these, there’s a few things I’d be remiss not to mention as well.

Healthy is Sexy

I want you and your spouse to enjoy great sex together! It’s a gift from God for married people. However, here are three important things to also consider as you get your sexy on.

Healthy Relationship

Sex in marriage is the absolute best when it is part of an overall healthy relationship. If you and your partner are experiencing relationship challenges, sex is likely not the answer – or at least only a temporary one. I encourage you to talk with a counselor that can help get you back to a strong foundation.

Sexual Health

Taking care of yourself and each other is critical to having a good sex life. Make sure you take care of your body, listen to your partner, and respect their boundaries. This is especially true if either of you has experienced sexual trauma in the past.

Mutual Interest

Everything sexual must be done with mutual interest. No one should feel pressured or coerced into doing something they don’t feel comfortable doing. Being married to that person doesn’t make this any less true.

Make sure to check in with your partner to ensure they are as enthused about your latest “tricks” as you are before moving forward.

Sexy Gift Ideas for Wife + Activities and Tips

Buying a sexy gift for your wife doesn’t have to be complicated. Whether it’s a Valentine’s Day gift or a sexy anniversary gift, use these ideas and have fun with it. 

Do you want to really wow her? Create an epic date night by combining these gift ideas with my list of 35 Fun and Spicy Date Night Games for Married Couples. Winning!